Ahh oral, one of the most under-rated sex acts.
Unfortunately we're not taught how to perform or receive oral, so most of us
just flop our tongues around thinking it’s some annoying preface to the main
event. But oral sex can be so much more
when you have the time, skills and desire. So here are my 6 main tips for
awesome oral sex.
Sweeten the deal
A lot of complaints from both men and women go a bit like
this: “I don’t like the taste/smell of my partner’s bits”. Well, here’s some
ways to sweeten their junk and make the experience more pleasant for the both
of you!
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Suggest a sexy shower for the two of you,
especially if you’ve had a long day. Wash away your troubles (along with that
musty scent), before you get down to it. There’s no need to douche or wash yourself
too intensely, but a quick rinse does wonders.
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Eat more fruit! The old ‘pineapple sweetens your
jizz’ trick is not that far from the truth. A healthy diet, as well as limited
intake of alcohol and cigarettes, can affect the smell and taste of your
fluids! So remember, an apple a day keeps the funk away.
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Buy some fun lubes – you can get chocolate or
fruit flavoured and delicious-smelling ones too. Make sure you avoid those with
sugar in them (or any types of food – chocolate sauce is not for the vag or the
penis!), as these can cause thrush, a nasty discharge which is caused when the natural
balance of the vagina is thrown out of whack.
Take your time
A lot of people (guys, I’m looking at you) think that
foreplay is a waste of time and just can’t wait to get into the ‘real sex’.
Well, I’m telling you – oral is your best way to get your partner super keen
& wet for penetration, rack up some brownie points, and probably your best shot at giving her an orgasm. Regardless of whether you’re performing oral on
a guy or a girl, take it slowly, try to really tune into what they’re enjoying
and what’s working for them, and bask in the fact that you’re making them feel
really, really good.
Work your way to the middle
Don’t think you need go straight for the centre of the
action (the clitoris or penis). A bit of suspense is never a bad thing, so
start at less sensitive and often ignored parts of the body, then work your way
towards the holy grail. Think about the stomach, arms, chest and thighs, and
don’t forget the lips and face. Kissing and touching any of these areas is
likely to get them raring to go. Then you can think about moving towards the
pubic bone, balls, outer vaginal lips (labia majora), and ass. And finally, when you get to the
clitoris & penis, all that build-up will be worth it.
Avoid the pearly whites
No chomping, biting or nipping, unless the other person
tells you that’s how they want it! Not only is it super uncomfortable, but you
risk making small cuts in the skin, which increases the risk of sexually
transmissible infections (such as herpes & gonorrhoea) and blood borne
viruses (such as Hep C & HIV). So, try to wrap your lips around your teeth
a little more, and keep those gnashing movements for the dinner table.
Learn to multi-task
Don’t just focus on using your tongue, lips & mouth –
get some other bits n pieces in on the action! Use your hands and fingers
aswell (just make sure they’re nicely lubed up), or even bring a vibrator into
the mix. It can be used on and around the clitoris, as well as on the scrotum,
or on the perineum (the bit of skin between the balls/vagina and the anus – it’s
full of nerve endings and super sensitive!). You can also use it to penetrate
the vagina or ass while continuing on with your oral skillz.
Communicaaaaaaate!
I know I sound like a broken record on this one, but it
really is the key to success with any kind of sex and any kind of partner. And I
don’t mean you have to break into D&Ms in the middle of the fun stuff, but
just make sure you ask them “how does that feel?”, or “do you want me to go
higher/lower/faster/slower/harder/softer?”, or “show me where you want me to
start”. If you feel uncomfortable talking about sex, you can communicate by making
different sounds, touching, moving the other persons head/hand/fingers/bits, and
moving your body in different ways. Don’t be afraid to try new things and see,
feel & hear how your partner responds.
The other part of this equation is being able to LISTEN. Don’t
be offended if your partner tells you something doesn’t feel good, or to do
something differently. Be honoured and take those gems of info on board! You
will improve your technique and they will improve their chances of orgasm.
Everyone’s a winner.
